Ok. Now, all you would have been in a position when it felt like it was you against the group. One person says something, others kind join in, and soon it's you against the group. This kind of negative synergy is paralysing. You ability to do this or the lack of it is what determines if you are a dominant personality or a pushover. I'm generally the second, unless I'm with friends. So how do you deal with this when it's being done unfairly?
1. Understand that a group is made up of individual people, and focus on them seperately.
2. Now focus on your main opposition, the person you're having the debate with. Realise he/she is a human and is thinking of ideas, understand her/his idea and respond.
3. Do not focus, or pay any attention to the mood or attitude of either her/him, or of the others. Dominant personalities commonly manipulate the mood in the group in his/her favour.
4. Be extremely confident and value your opinion as equally valid as the other person's.
5. Sometimes you have won by this step. But sometimes not. If what you say is recieved coldly, or sounds plain lame, do not be discouraged. Go to step 3 and come back here.
6. In two or three cycles, i guarantee you success. I tried it myself.
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